My grown up Christmas list.

Walking through malls the past few weeks have been somewhat of a rude awakening. Its only October but there are Santa hats, reindeer and Christmas trimmings everywhere you turn. Seems like Christmas is coming sooner every year. Christmas is 2 months away but we’re already being manipulated to spend our money and buy gifts so I started thinking about what I would like to find under the tree this Christmas. Since I’m a little too old to sit on Santa’s lap I thought I’d make a list. Here goes…

Dear Santa,

I hope this letter finds you in time. I thought I’d take some of the guessing out of your hands and give you an idea of what to bring me for Christmas.

1. Sneakers
I have a couple that I really like but I can’t afford or I just can’t seem to find the right one in stores. I’m hoping Saint Nick will do me a solid. Mariah Carey sang it best, ALL I WANT FOR CHRISTMAS IS SHOOOOOOOEEESSS.

Yeezy 500

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Nike VaporMax

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ZX 500 RM Son Goku

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One pair is enough I wouldn’t expect you to bring me all three.

2. Fragrance
My favourite perfume is almost finished Santa, and I need a new bottle so that would be highly appreciated.
Acqua di Gio

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3. Tailored suit
I’ve gained some unfortunate weight over the past few months that I can’t seem to shake. Santa, if you’re there, I’d like a brand-new suit or a summer body PLEASE!!

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4. Cellphone
Samsung Note 9
Now Santa, I don’t even think I need to motivate why I deserve this.

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5. Gift card
So, Santa if you’re not sure what to get me because I’ve been such a good boy this year, I won’t be disappointed if you just leave me a gift card under the tree. I’ll know what to get myself and I would appreciate it just as much.

I would add my Superbalist wishlist but I don’t want to break tradition.

I hope this list made it somewhat easier for you.

Sincerely,

Gareth.

Self-Care

In my very first blog, I HAVE NOTHING TO WEAR!!!, I stated that when you look good you feel good but, in this blog, I’m going to focus on that feeling that we are all chasing. Its different for everyone. It would be very naive of me to assume that throwing on your favourite t-shirt could be the solution to all your problems. What I meant by that was throwing on your favourite t-shirt helps. It makes you feel slightly better in the midst of whatever struggle you may have at the moment.

That brings me to the topic of self-care. Self-care is something my friends and I joke about when we do selfish things or spend a lot of money on things we really don’t need but it makes us feel good. So, let’s talk about it. I’m not a psychologist or an expert on the workings of the human mind or behaviour. So, I can only refer to my own experiences. I went through a rough patch the past few years. I wasn’t paying attention to myself. I stopped doing the things I loved not on purpose but because I did not have the time or energy for it. I love reading books and magazines but in the five years that I was working I only read 3 books from start to finish. I would buy 3 magazines every month Destiny Man, Men’s Health Magazine and GQ. I stopped buying them this year because for almost a year the books never came out of the plastic packaging I bought them in. I started journaling when I started working because it was an outlet for me and a way for me to express my feelings purely without fear of being judged and I’m not really good at talking about how I feel I usually eat my feelings. At some point I stopped writing in my journal. I used to write poems when I was in high school. I don’t even know where my book of poems is. I loved dressing up for work and by now you should know I love fashion. When I started working I wore a tie and a blazer to work every day. Near to the end I was literally just throwing on anything that was clean. I wasn’t seeing my friends as often as I would like because they live in Cape town and they also lead busy lives.

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These 3 books I bought while I was working but never got around to reading. The September issues of my favourite magazines were a joy to read. My journal is my solace. 

The saying goes you cannot pour from an empty cup. So, I decided to fill my cup. I quit my job as a teacher to pursue my aspirations of being a writer. That’s why I started this blog. You can say that this blog is a form of self-care for me because it combines so many of the things that I love. I started journaling again. It’s a great way to put my thoughts and feelings into perspective. I love singing and listening to music and for a while the sound of music annoyed me and I stopped singing. I think the first album for 2018 that I listened to was Everything Is Love by The Carters. The joy of singing still hasn’t returned to me. I’ve started reading magazines again so I’m back on track with all the latest trends. I like going out and spending time with my friends. I’m really at my happiest when I’m around them. I went on holiday with my family to Hermanus recently. I LOVE the beach. Its my happy place. The sound of the wind and the crashing of the waves always leaves me with a sense of calm that’s why I enjoyed it so much. At night while I laid in bed I could hear the ocean. I get my hair cut every 2 weeks and I go for mani/pedis once a month and I also indulge in a bit of shopping every now and then.

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Taking in the beauty of the ocean in Hermanus.

All these things are material and they aren’t necessities. But without them I became an empty shell. If I look at pictures of myself from a year ago or even a few months ago I can see the sadness in my eyes even though I’m smiling and genuinely enjoying myself in those moments. When I look at recent pictures of myself I can see a difference. You cannot fake happiness and I am truly happy right now. That’s why I started off this blog by saying when you feel good you look good. Now who doesn’t want to look good?

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The ocean really has a calming effect on me.

We need to make time for ourselves, take care of ourselves and do the things we love.

Take care.

 

Spring jumped out.

Its September and to many of us that means SPRING!!! Although its not officially Spring until the 23rd of September. With the change in the season comes a change in weather and with that our habits change. For the last couple of months we’ve stayed indoors and when we’re forced to leave the house we do so hurriedly because we want to get out of the cold and rain. We do our best to protect ourselves from the elements so we pile on the layers. With Spring on its way we can finally peel back a few of those layers and emerge from the cosy cocoons we’ve been wrapped up in. Temperatures are not that high so we cannot pull out the shorts just yet. With Cape Town’s weather you cant even really pack away your rain jackets yet and this Winter seems to be a stubborn one. But we can start dressing a little lighter. Now when it comes to spring we think bright colours and floral prints because we just got out of the gloomy winter. Im not someone that goes for bright colours usually but im not shy to wear a floral print.

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I’m not even shy to read myself

This is what Ill be wearing this Spring…

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It may be a bit warmer in Spring but we all know it can still get quite cold and the weather can change at anytime during the day, so I believe in carrying a jacket or a jersey with me whenever I leave the house. Its also not warm enough for shorts or flip flops and a plain white T just says Spring is here!

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Night time is always a bit cooler than the day time so if I’m going out at night Id swop out the cardigan for a bomber jacket (told you I’m not shy). I’ve also packed away the boots and pulled out a pair of comfortable sneakers to complement the look.

Springs is on its way so let go of all the Winter stress. Lets dress to impress!

Please like and comment if you like what I’m doing and follow this blog if you wanna see more posts like this.

Thanks for reading me.

I HAVE NOTHING TO WEAR!!!

Everyone that knows me, knows that I love fashion. Not so much fashion but clothes. I like to look good and receive compliments. Is that bad? For me getting dressed is quite the chore because everything down to the socks needs to be just right for me to be happy. I am my own worst critic.

I said I love looking good and to me that starts with a concept that I have in my head focused on either a specific colour, accessory or item of clothing that inspires me for that day. This might sound easy but it’s really not because there is a lot to take into consideration like what is the setting, dress code or the weather where I’m going. As a teacher I had to consider what I would be doing in class the next day. When I say “I have nothing to wear” I don’t mean I don’t have clothes it simply means that I cannot decide what to wear for that day or occasion. I’m sure we’ve all been there at some point.

I’m standing in front of my closet and I have picked out a specific shirt I want to wear, I just need to decide on pants and shoes. Sounds simple right? So now I’m looking for the right pair of pants and I cannot seem to find the pants that I want to wear that would make this look a winner. Now I hate every pair of pants that I own because I have to settle for mediocrity and I have to compromise on the perfect wash or fit of the jeans that would have made this look a standout. After going back and forth and having a mini breakdown over pants, I have finally picked a pair that will do. Then I need to decide which shoes I want to wear. I cannot wear the shoes I wanted to wear originally because they don’t go well with the pants I just chose. After settling on a pair of shoes my whole outfit has changed I now need to pick socks. I can only find the one sock of the pair I want to wear and I’m searching and searching and there’s socks everywhere. Eventually after turning my whole room into a ball of socks, with great relief I find the other sock but now I can’t seem to find the sock I had before I started searching. Then I give up and decide to wear another shirt and the process starts all over again. I envy those guys that can just throw on a pair of jeans and a t-shirt and be out the door without giving it much thought.

There’s just something about clothing that can change your whole mood. It gives you extra confidence and every time someone smiles at you or gives you that second look and checks you out from head to toe it just makes you feel great no matter how your day is going. When I say I have nothing to wear, I really mean that there’s nothing in my wardrobe that will make me feel good or confident on that day. As the old saying goes, when you look good you feel good.

Keep the good vibes going!